Being healthy is important in order for us to live life to its fullest. It is also a subject that we are required to teach as Ohio homeschool parents. 🙂 Today I want to focus on how to help our children stay mentally healthy. The news coverage of Covid-19 and now the unrest of the nation affects all of, even our children. So, how do we help them not be fearful when they hear or experience things that are sacry?
Let them know they do not need to be afraid. As a parent, I know you would do anything in your power to keep your son/ daughter safe. Reassure him/her of that and they can come to you whenever they feel scared. I know we tell our children that when situations arise, but let them know this often. I have to admit, I don’t always like being the grown-up and I would rather not be the “strong one”. However, if I can bring peace and stability to my children and now grandchildren, I will gladly be the person who says it’s going to be okay. My hope and peace are in things eternal.
What are ways you can help your child overcome fear?
- Talk about what is scaring them. Sometimes we think we know what it is that is causing our children to be afraid, but it might not be that at all. It will help them to voice their concerns.
- Validate them and their feelings. It doesn’t help to just dismiss what your daughter or son is afraid of, let them know it’s okay to be scared. Fear is a good thing when it is not blown out of proportion. You have taught your son not to play with matches because it is harmful and that is a healthy parameter to have in our lives.
- Reassure them that you are there for them. When I am scared I talk to my husband. He doesn’t always have to offer a solution, but just a listening ear helps me to be able to talk about what is causing me to be afraid.
- Sit close to your child, hug them. Sharing something that is scary makes you feel vulnerable. Just being close will help your child feel that security they need. If you don’t think they would be open to a hug, give them a pat on the hand, a squeeze on their shoulder or a quick side-hug. I can’t help it, I give my family hugs even when they are out of sorts because I want them to know I care and that’s one way I show them.
- Write a note of encouragement. It’s nice to have something for your child to refer back to after you have talked. Maybe your child doesn’t want to talk about what is bothering them. They will know you love them and you are there for them if you write a note. It doesn’t have to be long or mushy. lol Just an, ” I love you and am here for you” is all that is needed sometimes.
- Check back at a later date. See how your son/ daughter is doing. It is reassuring to know you haven’t forgotten. If they are still fearful and it is getting in the way of their everyday activities, you may want to talk with someone like a doctor or counselor about it.
Have a great week! ~Lisa~